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Andy Cohen Takes RHOBH's Lisa Rinna and Kyle Richards To Task For Calling Their Gay Friends, "My Gays!"

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Watch What Happens Live host, Andy Cohen, who was also the brain-trust behind Bravo’s “Real Housewives” franchise took to task last night on his talk show two members of the current season of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills – Lisa Rinna (Ex-Billie, DAYS) and Kyle Richards (who also has made guest appearances on DAYS).

If you watched this season of RHOBH, there have been several awkward moments where Rinna and Richards have called their gay friends, “My gays”.

Cohen illustrated this point in a compilation of clips which had Richards referencing, “Everyone in town has four or five gays.”  And Rinna saying in a confessional, “I let my gays down.”  And that was just for starters!

The host then launched into his “teachable moment” directed towards Rinna and Richards where he said, “Even though some of your friends might be gay, which is great, they are not yours, you do not own them. We are not cattle, we are not purses. And the next time you think of saying, ‘my gays,’ replace with ‘my blacks’ and see how that turns out.”

Lance Bass, who happened to be a guest on WWHL, also took Richards to task for over clips that have aired this season which showed a gay party she threw.  Bass related, “It was like if they had leashes on them, basically they’re just prancing around ‘their gays.'”

Watch the clip package after the jump! Then weigh-in … do you find it offensive of how Rinna and Richards spoke of their gay friends?  Comment below!

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I think this was obviously taken way out of context, people these days are SO quick to get offended, calm down people!! Geez!!! When you’re referring to “my gays”, I am sure she meant her really close friends that are gay. EVERYONE says that and it’s not used to be offensive at all!!!! Good grief!!!!

thank you richard.

ego push : Andy Cohen…. calm YOUrself

dang he’s handsome… I will not watch his “shows”

I did catch a top chef ep… and he was a guest quick fire judge…. and… he is goodlooking….

but that’s irrelevant : “my gays” ARE an endearment… acknowledgement… and supportive …. it meant something positive

yikes! take a chill pill OUT

how dare he diss my Lisa Rinna

I think Lisa was referring to her gay friends. Maybe Andy is one of them. If Lisa’s gay friends don’t like to be referred to in that way, they should speak up. I think it’s being used as a term of endearment.

Term of endearment? In what world does that make any sense? If your friends are straight, do you refer to them as “my straight” friends? So, why refer to those friends who happen to be gay, “my gay friends?” Do you give ‘your gay friends’ a different sort of friendship, or consideration? Bah Humbug.

bwaha
the Real Housewives women are attention whores lol.
But- that’s how they make their money, lots of it, that is good..
I have never watched an entire show it makes my eyes ache and my mind tilt while watching their brains idle ..

They have fans, people watch them.. so guess they are charming to some..

andy cohen is so cute!

Yes he is and I had a one night stand with Andy. He was great in bed and very charming. Now I am engaged to my wonderful boyfriend, who is a actor. Getting married this summer.

I had a one night stand with your wonderful boyfriend and he was not good in bed. Good luck this summer. :/

Why would you kiss and tell? How old are you? Uh oh…..are you guys pulling our collective legs?….if so, cute, really cute!

Give us the juicy details Donny. Im jealous. I want to sleep with Andy Cohen too. Yum yum.

I find both Andy Cohen and Lance Bass offensive. They do not speak for me as a gay man. I think Lisa Rinna did nothing wrong at all. Her use of the term “my gays” was meant as a term of affection for the gay people she knows. She was completely innocent in saying that. She didn’t even know the terminology “tops and bottoms” so I know she didn’t slight any one. Andy Cohen and Lance Bass both believe they speak for the entire gay community with their hurt feelings and lessons on enlightenment. I have seen Mr Bass out in public and he is rude, unfriendly and condescending to any one not in his circles. I find him irritating and plastic as a person. Andy Cohen has no right to speak on how the women he hired to represent “housewives” should speak. He is just as phony as Lance Bass. I think Andy Cohen can be witty and charming but he has ZERO credibility to speak on the language these women use. No one has ever used the term my “blacks”. And they never would. The term “my gays” does not reflect any bad intentions or feelings. Kathy Griffin has used that terminology or similar when referencing the gay community and no one has an issue with that. I suggest that both Andy and Lance work on being polite in public and stop trying to act like they are educators on political correctness. They fail miserably and I am offended that they would call out anyone’s alleged “ignorance” when they are quite ignorant themselves.

PREACH!!!! I wish this had a “love” button I could click!!!!

“…She was completely innocent in saying that. ”

exactly.

queen for a day …. fill your dance card complete

I do not watch these plastic shows….very glad I do not, as my point has just been proven. What positive aspect could any of these programs encourage? The above bombastic statement made shows how shallow, stupid, unimaginative and self-centered these women are.
Why would one separate a gay friend from a straight friend? Is it not the bond of friendship, regardless of one’s sexual preference, that counts? Why categorize their gay friends as “my gays”? Disgusting….shame on you, Lisa.

Exactly. My friends are my friends, not my gay friends, my black friends, my Jewish friends, my Indian friends, JUST MY FRIENDS.

Hi, clh,
I am a straight woman…married with two small children. Two of my very, very best friends, since grammar school, are gay. I love them so much, I would do anything for these guys; and, they for me. I have never referred to them as “my gays” or “my gay friends”. They are my friends, period.

CeeCee–thank you.
I know Kathy Griffith referred to her gay fans as “my gays” but she is a comedienne and it was not meant to be taken seriously. She was being self depreciating.
I think the possessive singular use of “my” is offensive no matter what follows it! My fans? My staff? My peeps? It all irks the hell out of me.
Lisa Rinna is an actress and has appeared in many television dramas. She is not famous for being famous. I have no idea who this Kyle person is but both women ought to think twice before applying this label onto their friends with the use of “my” proceeding it.
It may not be offensive but it’s certainly obnoxious and all my straights agree with me.

A lot of “your” straight soap friends agree with you too, Harry. Ahem. 😉

I love you, Harry.

RIGHT ON, Andy! Sick and tired of people who think they’ve adopted us like an unwanted pet, sick and tired of the gay men who go along with it like a poodle with a fancy new collar. Interested to see what Kathy Griffin will say since she’s the first I remember who called her friends “my gays.”

Mfarris, great minds and all that.
I just responded before I saw your post. Yes, Kathy does use this unfortunate phrasing, however, I always understood her to be incorporating such talk into her self depreciating routine. No one should be attempting to emulate Griffith unless they are as comically gifted as she is.
In any case, people need to stop it.

Is Andy going to go after Kathy Griffin? She’s always talking about her gays.

A big to-do about nothing. We should all get over being offended by words as labels. There are more important things to get excited about!! (Said by someone who could be called a “hurtful” label/category/word, and has been many, many times. Big Whoop!)

Um, sensitive much? People say My Homies, or My Peeps all the time. Its a term of endearment. Not slave like ownership!!

Homies and peeps are other words for friends. Gay is not. Using your “just a term of endearment” would mean it’s ok to refer to your overweight friends as “my fatties, your homely friends as “my uglies” your disabled friends as “my retards”.

It’s easy to say get over it when it doesn’t slight you. I wonder if she refers to her non gay friends as “my straights”? Would that be a term of endearment?

If you are actually serious right now, I am going to apply your logic. Okay? Follow along with me, okay? Most fat people do not walk around saying “”I’m fat”” Nor have I ever heard of a Fat Pride Parade. And I have never heard a mentally challenged person refer to themselves as a retard, nor heard of a Retard Pride Parade. Still with me?? On the.other hand, most, if not all gay people call themselves GAY. They throw Gay Pride Parades. So, if they use the word Gay and Pride in the same sentence, how the hell is it an insult? Would you rather she have said “My faggots”,or my queers?? She was quite obviously and affectionately using the phrase. So if it is now a hate crime to call gays gay, then what would they like to be called???

By the way, I am straight, and I have no objections whatsoever to being called straight. Why would I?? Your post is bizarre, and offensive, and not very well thought out. So….are you saying that calling a gay person gay is as offensive as calling a mentally challenged person a retard??????? I suggest you go back to the drawing board and figure out what you’re trying to say, because as written, it makes no sense.

ADEN,

You’re offensive to comment on what was in no way the issue or part of my statement. I said absolutely nothing about calling someone gay, but referring to them as MY gays.

If you had bothered to read the point of the first post you would know it is NOT about someone being called gay. It was being called MY gays as if they own them, like my dogs, my jewelry, my house.

Would you seriously introduce your friends or talk about your friends as this? “My blacks, my gays, my jews, my straights, are going with me”

The insult is not being referred to as Gay but as being referred to as MY gays. R.I.F (reading is fundamental!)

And gays dont let anyone prance them around unless they want to prance.

Kathy Griffin popularized this usage of “my gays” on her BRAVO show when ANDY COHEN was head of development. He never had any problem with it then. How does he expect Lisa and Kim to know that it’s “offensive” when they literally learned the term from one of Andy’s own shows. This is just to stir up controversy, most likely.

Personally, I do think it is inappropriate to refer to people this way – almost as if they are pets or possessions BUT Andy Cohen is the last person who should be calling them out. Also I think it is meant in good fun. I don’t watch the show so I don’t know Kim but I guarantee you Lisa Rinna doesn’t have a discriminatory bone in her body – she’s too much of an open book (and a sweetheart).

If Andy really had a “problem” with this he wouldn’t have let the word get on the air in the first place (he produces the show). He could have edited it out if he found it truly bothersome. But then he wouldn’t have been able to ambush these ladies on live TV. Keep it classy, Andy.

Nick, Kyle and Lisa are not even remotely funny and do not understand how to be self depreciating.
I think almost everything is funny and it takes a lot for me to offended.
I do not find it offensive that these mediocre little known personalities refer to gay men as “my gays.” I do, however, find it annoying and rather presumptuous.
What I do find offensive, is when anyone, famous or not, funny or not, who uses the word “retard” to insult anyone. Kathy Griffith and other comics do this and it offends me greatly. No one chooses their sexual orientation, their race or their intellectual/mental capability. Any jokes predicated on the aforementioned are cheap, insensitive and yes, stupid.

im gay n im fine with lisa rinna and her quote.
ironic that andy would find something offensive on any of his shows considering pretty much the whole show in general is offensive!!! more offensive than anything is the amount of brutal plastic surgery most of these actresses get unnnecesarily! just seeing them on screen looking swollen and filled up is offensive, thanks anyways andy! go save the rainforest…

I think Lisa and Kyle would be horrified if they knew they hurt anyone like that, goodness grief, he should of know better too, not everyone can be “knowledgeable” about whats right or wrong with any group, we are all humans and not perfect, and he’s often offensive on his show with straight people so he’s nothing but a hypocrite. as for lance bass well, fake comes to mind evertime i see him.

why do we care?

isn’t this still america where we have freedom of expression (which includes speech).

not just non offensive free speech, but free speech…

I’m offended by the way christians, republicans and white men are bashed, but everyone has the right to say what they want.

if we go down this road of you can’t say anything offensive, then the tv screens would be blank, there would be no music (ever try to decipher those lyrics), books would have white pages and everyday speech between human beings would cease to exist.

come on people – get a grip (or is that offensive to arm-wrestlers?),

lighten up (or is that offensive to non-light skinned people?),

show some common sense (sorry stupid people).

“Free Speech” is relative. In this day and age, in this democracy, one needs to be aware and wary of what passes our lips. Free Speech or not, words hurt….it is also a moral issue.

Amen!!!! Great post!!!!

I meant good post to mgb!

Wonder how they’d react if Andy referred to them as “my bitches?”. But, really, its silly. People are so self absorbed they become personally offended by anything.

Oh my gosh a voice of reason!

Another good reason to watch neither show.

Yeah, I’m so over Andy Cohen and the Housewives—they’ve run their course. Next!

Was Kyle and Lisa intent on being malicious? I doubt it, so why is he publicly shaming them? He could of easily email them directly, gone it over with without having to embarrass two women who clearly support the gay community more so then not.. He’s offensive to right out to his own guess by treating his attractive male guess like pieces of meat, not everyone want to be hit on by you Andy!!

Here’s the thing–they wear “my gays” like an accessory, like a Fendi bag.
No, it’s not horrible but it’s friggen annoying. Good for Andy for calling them out. He was right to do so.
Language matters.

Cher and many other celebs with a gay following have been using that term for years, it seems kind of strange to make an issue about it now. Well I’m sure the “READING” he gave the ladies will resonate since they’re in it for the money.

I have to admit wondering why they were referencing their gay friends the same way they would their pets. As in “My gays”….” My dogs”. So I have to agree with Andy on this one. I don’t even know why sexual preference need to be included at all. Just say “I’m throwing a mixer for some of my single friends”.

Ok let me get this straight we have beheadings people being burned in cages people dying of cancer and aids etc!! And this guy is worried about being politically correct! Loser!!!!

As a gay man myself—Stop the Presses!—I’m not offended at all by what these Housewives said. It was meant as a term of endearment, for certain. Similarly, straight and gay guys will refer to each other as “my man” or “my brother” all the time. The “my” doesn’t imply ownership. It’s simply a way of making a personal, altruistic connection.

I think Mr. Cohen and Mr. Bass are a bit full of themselves. There is no need to criticize these ladies for saying “my gays” as if these women are homophobic or unenlightened. The fact that they have gay friends negates all that. Give them a break!

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2026 SDSA TV Award Nominations: All Five Daytime Dramas Score in Best Achievement in Set Decoration

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The Set Decorators Society of America has revealed its nominations for 2025-26 SDSA Awards for Television, which recognizes the work of the set decoration and production designers in primetime, streaming and daytime series.

This year, all five soap operas: Beyond the Gates, The Bold and the Beautiful, Days of Our Lives, General Hospital and The Young and the Restless all received nominations in the Best Achievement in Decor/Design of a Daytime Series category.

In its official SDSA rule book, to qualify for the category of a Daytime Series, which includes daytime dramas, daytime talk shows, daytime game shows, and daytime children’s programming, all episodes must air before 6:00pm and must have a credited Set Decorator. For daytime dramas, the content must contain multiple plotlines that are carried over from episode to episode.

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WHICH EPISODES CAN BE INCLUDED IN THE COMPETITION?

The eligibility year for episodes runs June 1, 2025, and May 31, 2026.  Founded in 1993, the SDSA is an international nonprofit professional association dedicated to promoting excellence and preserving the legacy of the art of set decoration in motion pictures and television.

Several popular primetime and streaming titles that have wrapped their final seasons also received nods including Euphoria, Stranger Things, Hacks, Outlander, and The Boys. Popular titles such as Bridgerton.

Take a look below at the nominated scenic design teams from your favorite soaps:

Best Achievement in Décor/Design of a Daytime Series

Beyond The Gates: Set Decoration by Cynthia Slagter with Production Design by Bruton Jones

The Bold and the Beautiful: Set Decoration by Prim Rosales, Beth Wooke, Prerna Chawla, Charlotte Garnell, Chelsea Mondelli, Michelle Hall, & Linda Louise Sheets with Production Design by Lou A. Trabbie III

Days of Our Lives: Set Decoration by Adele Caine & Sarah Holmes with Production Design by Tom Early & Dan Olexiewicz

General Hospital: Set Decoration by Jennifer Elliot with Production Design by Andrew Evashchen

The Young and the Restless: Set Decoration by Jennifer Haybach, Justine Mercado, Maria Dirolf, & Monica Lowe with Production Design by David Hoffmann

So, which soap opera from the calendar year of basically June of 2025 to a week ago in 2026, do you think has had the best looking sets? Beyond the Gates, The Bold and the Beautiful, Days of Our Lives, General Hospital, or The Young and the Restless? Make you pick and drop it in the comment section below.

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‘Days of Our Lives’ Officially Confirms Ryan Quan Returning as Co-Head Writer Beginning in July

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There is definitely a shake-up going down at the writing team at Peacock’s Days of Our Lives. Now, the long-running soap opera has confirmed, what has been previously reported, that current General Hospital breakdown writer, Ryan Quan is heading back to his old stomping grounds in Salem. This time as the series co-head writer.

The appointment of Quan comes with the official news that current co-head writer, Paula Cwikly, who was previously rumored to be departing the series, is not. She is staying with the soap opera and transitioning to a consultant role with the show. Now, Quan will join current co-head writer, Jeanne Marie Ford to steer the ship for the characters on the canvas.

On Wednesday, TV Insider, reported the official confirmation and that Quan will return to DAYS next month in July. In a statement to the outlet, executive producer, Ken Corday expressed, ‘We are lucky to have Ryan back in the fold. There are very few people who have such a deep knowledge and understanding of our show’s history. Stay tuned!”

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THE FUTURE OF DAYS OF OUR LIVES

Since Days of our Lives unusual production schedule tapes ten-months ahead of air, the new creative team’s vision led by Quan and Jeanne Marie Ford are not expected to stream on Peacock until mid-2027.

Days of Our Lives is currently renewed through its 63rd season. The former NBC soap opera which transitioned to Peacock in September of 2022, celebrate its 60th anniversary in November of 2025.

The writing regime change comes after NBCUniversal Media Chairman Matt Strauss revealed that Peacock is expected to turn a profit for the first time in the current quarter, punctuating their investment with the enduring soap opera on its platform.

As for Quan, his knowledge of Salem is tremendous. Ryan joined Days of Our Lives as a writer’s assistant in 2007 after some time over at Passions. He then spent two decades and held every position on the writing team where he previously served as co-head writer from 2016-17 alongside Dena Higley.

Later, when Ron Carlivati took over as head writer for 7 years in 2017, Quan became his right-hand man and main story consultant for his deep knowledge of the history and the legacy of the show. After Carlivati exited the show in 2024, General Hospital hired Quan in 2025.

So, what do you think about DAYS making it official with Ryan Quan as the new co-head writer of the series alongside Jeanne Marie Ford. What do you think about the fact we won’t see the changes on-screen till 2027? Weigh-in via the comment section below.

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Daytime Drama Casting Directors Talk Four of the Most Challenging and Important Recasts of Their Careers

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Daytime soap opera casting directors: Greg Salmon (The Young and the Restless) Marnie Saitta (Days of Our Lives), Christy Dooley (The Bold and the Beautiful) and Kim Coleman (Beyond the Gates) discussed the process of casting for a daytime drama series from contract players to under-fives along and their expectations for auditioning, plus behind the scenes casting tales at their recent panel from the SAG-AFTRA Foundation.

The entertainment industry event helps actors receive inside intel from leading casting professionals and took place just over a week ago at the Meryl Streep Center for the Performing Arts in Los Angeles.

Moderated by noted journalist Jim Halterman, one of the more intriguing moments of the panel discussion occurred when the subject turned to the challenges of a recast on a soap opera and replacing a popular actor with another in a very key role. Each of the four casting directors were able to put a spotlight on such an occurrence and all were leading men on their respective soaps.

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For Marnie Saitta at Days of Our Lives, she was tasked with finding the new EJ DiMera. James Scott had become amazingly popular in the role from 2006-2014. Then, enter Dan Feuerriegel, who had the right stuff for DAYS to finally pull the trigger and cast the new EJ. The character returned on-screen in 2021 after 7 years.

RECASTING EJ DIMERA

“I do know now how to best approach a recast, like I’m casting a new character,” explains Marnie. “I feel like the actor just has to come in and make it their own. You can’t even try, looks-wise, to be quite honest. Obviously, EJ DiMera is kind of a focal point (of DAYS) and Dan was such a champ. I swear to God, I think I brought him in maybe six times. I would bring him in for other characters, but I kept thinking he’s really good for EJ and it didn’t go. Then, I brought him for something else, same thing. I knew that the role of EJ was going to be really difficult to find, and it finally clicked. He took EJ in a different direction. He has a totally different vibe, but equally as effective.”

RECASTING ADAM NEWMAN

For Greg Salmon, he discussed the pivotal role of Y&R’s Adam Newman, who was previously by Tracker star, Justin Hartley and what he looked for to be able to find the right actor to be the next black sheep of the Newman clan.

“We had Justin Hartley playing the role of Adam Newman before he went to This Is Us, and now Mark Grossman has been playing him,” explained Salmon. “So that was a really tough role to recast. Before Justin, there were two other people (Chris Engen and Michael Muhney) who played the part. Adam Newman is central to the show. This is Victor Newman’s (Eric Braeden) son. So, it’s an incredibly important character to the show. But now, Mark Grossman’s been playing the role for several years now. He’s completely made the role his own.”

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Salmon added the key attributes that Mark Grossman or someone like him brings into an audition for the role of that is being recast, “I really think it just comes down to the person’s energy and what they’re bringing to the character,” explained Greg. “You can’t think, ‘Well, I know Justin Hartley looks like this. And the guy before him looked like that,’ because then you’ll just get trapped. You’re not trying to find another Justin Harley. You’re trying to find another Adam Newman. I just remember Mark came in and I think he read with Eric Braeden, and he read with a few other people of the Newman family, and his energy was just off the charts. You know, this is how Adam should feel. Eventually, I think the audience really accepted him.”

RECASTING RIDGE FORRESTER

In a little-known casting story, The Bold and the Beautiful’s Christy Dooley shared how Mark Grossman almost became one of the Forresters! “He tested for us (at The Bold and the Beautiful). Mark came in and read for the role of Thomas Forrester and he was my choice for the role,” says Dooley. “The role wound up going to Matthew Atkinson, but then he came down to read for The Young and the Restless.”

Dooley was also tasked with one of the biggest soap recasts in history when Ronn Moss exited The Bold and the Beautiful in his signature role of Ridge Forrester which Moss played from 1987-2012. Eventually, Thorsten Kaye took over the role at the end of 2013.

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“When Ronn Moss left the show, Brad Bell (executive producer and head writer, B&B) said, ‘I can’t recast him right now, he’s just too familiar.’ So he waited. The character was always talked about because he is one of the Forresters. Brad finally said, ‘We need to bring him back. We got to find somebody.’ Then to get Thorsten Kaye, who’s so different than Ronn, and he made it completely his own. He’s just amazing at it, so I think time helped (between bringing on a new Ridge.)”

RECASTING DR. TED RICHARDSON

For Beyond the Gates, Kim Coleman, she has a soap opera that is now building a new legacy only in its second season. However, in season one, Maurice Johnson became the first recast in series history when he was replaced as Dr. Ted Richardson with Keith D. Robinson and at a critical point in the storyline.

Coleman explained, “I think it was a transition and everyone was in agreement that it was the right thing to do. And then fortunately, we brought in an actor that the audience knew. They knew his face. He was great. Keith made it his own and there was not a lot of controversy and it wasn’t complicated. Keith D. Robinson is on the show now and everyone loves him. So, it was a very smooth transition.”

You can check out the full conversation with daytime casting directors, Greg Salmon, Marnie Saitta, Christy Dooley and Kim Coleman below.

Now let us know which of the four recasts noted do you think was the most successful? Were you surprised to learn Mark Grossman was a favorite of casting director Christy Dooley for Thomas Forrester before landing his role as Adan Newman? Weigh-in via the comment section below.

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